Why would someone think I'm naive for wanting to get married and have kids? Yes I know getting married at a young age isn't always the best idea but why, because so many people screw it up, and that's only because they didn't have a true sense of what they wanted in life to begin with!

But there comes a point where you truly know what you want out of life and what kind of lifestyle you want to live and just because I'm 18 doesn't make me naive for knowing what I want in life. If anything, that's a great thing because then I can make my life whatever I want it to be.

Some people are career oriented, some people are family oriented. Based on my personal circumstances that are unique to my life so far and the way I was raised, it's perfectly understandable why I would want to have a family of my own.

You have been watching way too many teen mom shows


The answer is because you don't want to end up like this guy

Sounds like a fast track to being divorced, uneducated, stuck in dead end job you hate, with a bunch of kids you can't afford.

Those teen moms are all retarded.

I would like to get married in my early 20's, and after I'm done with college and have a good career start. But really, I don't buy that. Sure a large majority of people that get married end up divorced but that's only because they weren't right for each other to begin with, and often times the signs are all there, they just don't want to alone so bad that they look past that and fool themselves into thinking that the little things don't matter as much. As for kids, maybe 2 or 3.

I was just saying, why is it a bad thing to know what you want?

You don't get married for the sake of getting married, you get married because you feel you're in love with your partner and want to spend your life together. You shouldn't set your life goal to get married to somebody.

I understand that, but shouldn't I be aware that I will find that person and fall in love with them and want to spend the rest of my life with them if I put myself out there? So with that in mind, what's wrong with wanting getting married? I don't want to get married for the sake of getting married (that's probably why most people divorce or cheat on their partners).

Not until what you want changes and there is a wife and a kid who depend on you for support. When your wants change because you haven't had enough time to experience life and find out what you really want then yeah, knowing what you "want" can be a bad thing.

People have 7 - 10 jobs in their life, the divorce rate is at 50% and Obama's approval rating is at 20%. People change what they want in life, it happens. You may end up being that statistical anomaly but it's unlikely. What you want now may change tomorrow, next week, next month, next year, next decade, and then may change many times during that time as well.

Who knows what your reasoning is, maybe you are a child of a divorced household, maybe you were a foster child who was bounced around, maybe for some reason you crave stability and normalcy in your life that you think getting married and having kids will give you. Who is to say what your reasoning it. There is no way you could give us enough information to figure it out. Even if you could it would have a self serving bias to it so whatever you tell us would be from your point of view to make it sound like your reasoning is sound.

In the end, nobody truly gives a shit what you want. Go out and do whatever you want and learn for yourself if you really want something.