*copied from my Live Journal*

I'm gonna let mom and Dan have it the hard way that if the fighting doesn't stop then things WILL get ugly around here.This is an email I sent to my mom about this.

I'm sick and tired of Dan picking fights and yelling at me for stupid crap all the time. Tell him if he does that anymore he needs to go home or something. All of his yelling over stupid shit, like the padlock from last night needs to stop and its gonna end up giving me a heart attack or something. I'm sick of all the yelling in this house and I want it to END!

When I go out to uncle eds tomorrow I might go spend the night at Roberts, and I probably WON'T come back Dan quits acting like the worlds oldest three year old. That gate was locked and he didn't have to get in my face and call me a liar about it. If he does get in my face like that again I'll do what it takes to make him not wanna get that close to me again! I'm putting my foot down on this.


I don't mind fighting for the hell of it but fighting for pure bullshit, THIS IS WHY I'M SO VIOLENT AND WHY I'M SO UNHEALTHY. There will be NO MORE FIGHTING OR YELLING from my mom or Dan anymore or violance WILL be resorted to. I don't fucking care if I go to jail or anything I'm ending the yelling once and for all, even if it means I need to break some teeth.

I haven't been this mad in a long time, my blood is running through me really fast and I can't even concentrate on anything right now. I JUST WANT SOME FUCKING QUIET!

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I'm litterally at the end of my chain. I got nowhere to move into, I go no money to afford a new place to live, and I can't get a job in this economical shithole called Michigan where jobs are non existant. I need help badly. Can somebody please help me move out of my mom's house so I can get my own place so I won't end up with an anger enduced heart attack or stoke or possibly ending up in jail? I'm at my wits end and I feel bad for even asking this but I need it more than anything. I need to get away from all the fighting and yelling before somebody dies. Anybody, please help me get a place or room of my own so I can be at peace? Any help is appreciated.

Wow...that is one serious situation. I would like to help you out, really. However, I live in NE Missouri, and I don't have the money or time to lend aid. I'm truly, truly sorry. I don't know exactly who Dan is(Step-dad/mom's boyfriend?) but I DO know that he isn't a person who's worth wasting your time and energy on. I know that sounds like a cop out answer, but it's true. I work at a prison. I deal with mouthy inmates regularly, especially working in the hole. They can scream, yell, insult me, my parents, my anything really, and there's not much you can do but tune it out. And I do. It takes discipline, but I don't allow a bunch of losers try and bring me down, and neither should you. If it comes to the point where you need to leave, can you find a relative to call and talk to this about? See if they can't help you by living with them? If not, then you need to find some sort of shelter to live in for a few days(Like the kind for homeless or abused spouses, etc.). This should give you the breathing room you need to plan your next move in life, and I bet they have resources, or at least can point you to them, that can help you. I.E. free counseling, therapy, and whatnot. Hope this helps and let us know how it goes.

Dude, IMO, I say take it in stride or at most confront them but don't do anything too drastic. I'm talking from experience.

I've always had lots of trouble with my entire family. Ever since I was a kid I've had with issues with them, issues I don't want to mention.. but things were bad for me. When I was older some stuff stopped but I'd still be verbally abused by everyone, I won't go into too much detail but every day it was yelling and put downs against me. It's all left me kind of fucked up in some ways. Well a few months ago I left my family, didn't say goodbye or give any warning, I just gathered some things up, sent them by UPS to a place I found (off Craigslist) in another province and left. Once all my things were sent, when everyone thought I was off to work in the morning, I instead took a train to Toronto, Ontario.

I couldn't take it with my family anymore so I left, but in doing so sacrificed school and a really great job. Well... I wasn't watching my money, ran out, and now I'm back home. Ya I moved back. The fact that they took me back surprised me... Even more surprising though, things are better for me. I think they got the point that I'm not taking their shit anymore and if anything starts again I WILL leave. But in the end I pretty much just fucked myself over with school and lost a lot of money.

If you are really hell bent on doing this, go to Craigslist (find the one for where you live or want to move to) and you can find apartments or roommates on there. It's the easiest way.

But I wish I would have just faced the problem head on rather than running away, I’d probably be a lot better off financially. And damn… I’m so depressed about fucking my school work up.

Good luck with whatever ou choose to do.